Monday 23 May 2011

Should We Pretend Nothing Is Wrong?

Well over the last few months I've been thinking, should we pretend 'nothing is wrong' or open up about all our problems. I think there should be a balance, tell close friends if something is upsetting you but don't tell the world all your problems.
However, recently with everything going on I've been feeling that my problems are insignificant compared to other peoples and I try to stay quiet about them although I normally just blurt them out anyway... But the only problem with staying quiet about things is that other people don't realise you have problems of your own, so they pile all theirs on you aswell.
I think if you are pretending nothings wrong you are really just hoping that someone will notice your 'silent cry for help' (so cliché), but if I've learnt anything its that nobody ever does so you will just spend a lifetime waiting for someone. You can't blame other people to though, because you yourself probably don't notice your friends problems either. The truth is we are all self-involved and self-obsessed, some more than others, but we have to make time for friends, be patient and observant so they don't feel like they are all alone.
If you've been let down by people in the past, I know I have, what you have to do is 'Build Walls'... this means not expecting people to notice so when they don't your not upset. Its a harsh way to live but the least painful.

-"To be immune from pain, you must be immune from love."